How Many Female Orgasm Types Are There?

There is much discussion on the nature of number of female orgasm types. Recent research studies have found four types of female orgasms. Researchers amassed data from more than 500 women and came up with a classification system as follows: Type I, which is the best type, is considered "good," with elevated pleasure and physical sensation; Type II, which is considered a "good" orgasm, with elevated pleasure, but less physical sensation; Type III, which is "not so good," with much lower physical sensation and intermediate pleasure; and Type IV, which is at the far end of the spectrum, low on physical and pleasure, and considered not too great. This is a new look at the female orgasm type from a perspective of pleasure and intensity. But there is also much discussion on types of orgasms in terms of location-that is, location of origin.

Aside from the scientific studies on female orgasm types, you will find much discussion in magazines-both women's and men's-regarding this topic as well. It is generally accepted that there are at least three types of orgasms women report: Clitoral, Vaginal, and G-spot. There has been a long-standing debate surrounding the female orgasm. Freud presented the idea that there were two types, but he then downgraded the clitoral orgasm by claiming that mature women relocate the place of their sexual pleasure to the vaginal cavity. Today, (in large part, thanks to Kinsey's research) we recognize that mature women can have several types of orgasms, clitoral included.

The clitoral orgasm is most common type for women. Roughly 70% of women can only orgasm through direct contact to the clitoris. However, the clitoris can suffer from over-sensitivity after orgasm. The technique for producing an orgasm from clitoral stimulation can vary from woman to woman, but in general, many women report that men are too rough with their touch. Many men find it useful to have their partner show them what they like.

However, there is much being written on the G-spot orgasm. As far as female orgasm types, many people see the G-spot orgasm as the ultimate quest. Many women report they have not located their G-spot or that their partner has not found it. This dime-sized spot is the subject of much literature and debate. Some experts even posit that there is no such thing, but many women report rapturous orgasms from stimulation there. Other experts theorize that the G-spot is, in fact, the back side of the clitoris. Thus, it is the backside of that network of nerve endings. To find this spot, insert a finger just inside the vagina and the G-spot will be between one and three inches up. You will recognize it by its ridged or rough feel compared to the vaginal wall around it. The orgasms resulting from stimulation to the G-spot are reported as stronger and more intense than those originating from clitoral stimulation. Women who have not yet experienced a G-spot orgasm often report feeling frustrated or left out. There was even a trend of women undergoing a cosmetic "enhancement" of the G-spot by having collagen injected to enlarge it, which would hypothetically make it easier to find.

The third female orgasm type in terms of location of origin is the vaginal orgasm. More recently, these are being referred to as the A-spot, deep spot, or the AFE (anterior fornix erogenous zone). This spot was originally discovered during research on lubrication. This spot is in the deepest end of the anterior wall of the vagina. This is in the vaginal tube between the cervix and the bladder. Orgasms originating here are said to be intense and extremely powerful. This spot does not get overly sensitive after orgasm, so the possibility of multiple orgasms is good with this spot.

The female orgasm types are numerous and fascinating. The more you know about the female orgasm, the better equipped you are as a lover.

How to Finger a Woman

There are few things in life more sexy and arousing for a woman than the magic touch of her lover's hands. Just the thought of their fingers brushing against our cheeks, embracing our hand in theirs or roaming the length of our body can send shivers of sexual electricity pulsing through our body. So, by learning how to finger a woman properly, you can take the experience of touch to even greater heights and literally have your woman quivering in your hands.

A lot of men think they have fingering her already mastered, but that is not always the case. The problem is that men often tend to use techniques that are enjoyable to them without asking their woman if it's pleasurable for her and women are often reluctant to tell their man what she desires.

Two Common Mistakes that Men Make when Fingering a Woman

Men often make two common mistakes -- one is thrusting in and out and the other is going straight for the gold.

Most men's first instinct is to thrust the finger and try to simulate intercourse because that's what's most enjoyable for them. You don't want to literally "finger fuck" your woman. Thrusting in and out of the vagina, regardless of whether it is the penis or the hand, is not the most enjoyable part of sex for a woman. Most women can't reach orgasm through thrusting, not only that, the most sensitive and responsive parts of the vagina are outside the vagina, mainly on the clitoris, the lips and the first couple inches of the vaginal opening. Most of your attention when fingering should be given to the clitoris.

Men also tend to get distracted by wanting to see how many fingers they can get inside her. This may be fun to play around with now and then, but it is not going to be what gives her an orgasm or incite much arousal.

Don't go straight for the vagina for two reasons. One, she won't be wet enough yet, and if she's dry, it won't be an enjoyable experience for her, it may actually be painful. Two, it's much more exciting and pleasurable for the woman if you pay attention to other parts of the body first.

Build wetness, excitement and pleasure by caressing her body, kissing and talking sexy before diving in. If she's still not wet by the time you make it between her legs, then stick your finger in your mouth and make it wet with your saliva before fingering her or use lubrication if needed.

Hot Tips and Techniques for How to Finger a Woman

The most effective way to learn how to finger a woman is to ask her to masturbate in front of you several times and learn first hand how to do it. Each woman is unique and will have different needs in regard to pace, pressure, placement, timing etc. However, here are few sure fire tips that most any women will enjoy.

• Tease her and build excitement by brushing gently with your fingertips in the crease where the thigh meets the pelvic area. Run your fingers softly up and down the thigh, through her bush and across the lips.


• Increase the impact of pleasure by kissing her passionately, nibbling and kissing on her neck or ears, whispering how much you love her or how good she feels or licking her nipples while fingering her.


• Give special attention to the clitoris. Pull the hood back of the clitoris, wet the tip of your finger with your saliva. The tip of your middle finger works best. Move your finger in a fast circular motion or back and forth in an up and down position -- not left to right. For some women, direct stimulation of the clitoris under the hood is too intense and may be uncomfortable, if that is the case with your woman, then perform the same motion, but on top of the hood. 
  The most pleasurable spot of the clitoris is usually directly to the right side of the nub and up a little or directly to the left of the nub and up a little.


• Ask her to guide you with simple phrases like yes, no, to the left, to the right, a little faster, a little slower, a litter harder, a little softer etc.


• Listen to her breathing and the noises she makes. This will tell you how you're doing.


• When you find the pace that's working for her, don't stop. Stay consistent until she climaxes.


• Once she's reached climax, it's quicker the second time around, so if you really want to treat her good, take her to Nirvana again.


• Combine fingering with oral to give her extra delight. Slide a finger just a couple inches inside the vagina and work your fingers back and forth while licking her clitoris.


• Use one finger inside her and one on the clitoris.


• Stimulate the g spot with one finger and the clitoris with the other.


• Clamp her with one hand. Slide a couple fingers inside her and grab the pelvic bone with your thumb, then rub and tell her to grind her hips against your hand.


• Lick her anus or perineum area while fingering her.


• Make sure your finger nails are trimmed and smooth so they don't scratch her


• If you want to give your woman one of the best orgasms she's ever had, then stimulate her clitoris with your mouth and the g spot with your finger. This will help her achieve a mind blowing clitoral/gspot orgasm simultaneously. Knowing how to be a master at oral sex can make any man an exceptional lover, but unfortunately many men do not know how to give their woman oral sex that is deeply satisfying. 

Another great way to learn how to finger a woman is to have her put her hand on yours. If you can come at her clitoris in the exact angle in which she does when she masturbates, then you will "really" have the magic touch. This requires that you come at her from behind. This could be done on the bed or in a chair, where the male sits up and the woman sits in-between his legs so her buttocks are against his penis and her back against his chest. The male reaches around and stimulates her clitoris. She places her hand on his and guides him in the manner in which is pleasurable for her.

Alternatively, another very exciting option to achieve this same goal is the standing position, where she stands in front of him with her back towards him and he pulls her against his chest while reaching around and accessing her vagina and she places her hand on his. She could place one of her feet on a chair or foot stool to give him easier access.

Either of these positions are great for many reasons; it allows her to teach him what she likes, the male can use his other hand to caress other parts of her body. He can also nibble on her neck or ears, nuzzle in her hair and tell her how much he loves her or how much he wants her and she can press her body close against his and feel his excitement throbbing against her buttocks. All of this creates a great deal of intimacy which will increase her pleasure even more and strengthen your physical and emotional bonds.

When and Where to Finger Your Woman

There's more to knowing how to finger a woman besides technique, it's also about timing and place. Another great aspect of fingering is that it can be quick, fun and discreet. You can easily take this kind of play outside the bedroom. It can be used when you are out and about to build anticipation and get her in the mood, so when you finally get home she'll be ready to rock and roll. It feels so naughty that it really gets the motor purring.

• Tease her while in the car,shopping, sitting in the movie theater, under the table at the restaurant, at the lake, in the elevator or anywhere you can get away with it. This is great for building arousal and creating the mood and it let's you have fun together, which increases intimacy.


• Tell her not to wear any panties when you're going out and slip your hand under her skirt for a surprise. Alternatively, if you're a woman reading this page, then don't wear any panties and when you're in the theater or the restaurant take a hold of his hand and slide it under your skirt to give him a surprise.


• Alternatively, if you're really bold and adventurous, you can give her some secret pleasure and take her all the way. Finger her until she climaxes while you're in the theater, the car, the restaurant, the lake etc. She can bite her own finger to squelch her moans of pleasure and orgasm quietly.


• Fingering is a great way to give her a quickie in an unexpected place or even at home. Neither of you have to get undressed. Press her up against the wall and give her a passionate kiss while your hands make their way in-between her legs.

The real beauty of knowing how to finger a woman lies in the fact that it can be used in many different ways. It can be a form of foreplay, a way to build arousal and desire or it can be the main event for the woman. After you have brought her to orgasm with your fingers, she'll be hot, wet and ready for you to take your turn with intercourse. You can now put her in any of your favorite positions and thrust till your hearts content or she can now drop to her knees and give you you're favorite oral delight

Kegel exercises: A how-to guide for women

Kegel exercises: A How-To Guide For Women

Kegel exercises can help you prevent or control urinary incontinence and other pelvic floor problems. Here's a step-by-step guide to doing Kegel exercises correctly.


Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder, small intestine and rectum. You can do Kegel exercises, also known as pelvic floor muscle training, discreetly just about anytime.


Start by understanding what Kegel exercises can do for you — then follow step-by-step instructions for contracting and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles.

Why Kegel exercises matter....

Many factors can weaken your pelvic floor muscles, including pregnancy, childbirth, surgery, aging and being overweight.


You might benefit from doing Kegel exercises if you:
Leak a few drops of urine while sneezing, laughing or coughing
Have a strong, sudden urge to urinate just before losing a large amount of urine (urinary incontinence)
Leak stool (fecal incontinence)


Kegel exercises can be done during pregnancy or after childbirth to try to prevent urinary incontinence. Kegel exercises — along with counseling and sex therapy — might also be helpful for women who have persistent difficulty reaching orgasm.


Keep in mind that Kegel exercises are less helpful for women who have severe urine leakage when they sneeze, cough or laugh. Also, Kegel exercises aren't helpful for women who unexpectedly leak small amounts of urine due to a full bladder (overflow incontinence).

How to do Kegel exercises...

It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers:

 
Find the right muscles. To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream. If you succeed, you've got the right muscles. 

Perfect your technique. Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and lie on your back. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, and then relax for five seconds. Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions. 

Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises. 

Repeat 3 times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.

Don't make a habit of using Kegel exercises to start and stop your urine stream. Doing Kegel exercises while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles, as well as lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder — which increases the risk of a urinary tract infection.

When to do your Kegels...

Make Kegel exercises part of your daily routine. You can do Kegel exercises discreetly just about anytime, whether you're sitting at your desk or relaxing on the couch. You might make a practice of fitting in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking email.

When you're having trouble...

If you're having trouble doing Kegel exercises, don't be embarrassed to ask for help. Your doctor or other health care provider can give you important feedback so that you learn to isolate and exercise the correct muscles.

In some cases, biofeedback training might help. During a biofeedback session, your doctor or other health care provider inserts a small probe into your vagina or rectum. As you relax and contract your pelvic floor muscles, a monitor will measure and display your pelvic floor activity.

When to expect results...

If you do Kegel exercises regularly, you can expect results — such as less frequent urine leakage — within about a few months. For continued benefits, make Kegel exercises a permanent part of your daily routine.

The Hitachi Wand

The Hitachi Wand

Hitachi may market its Magic Wand as an innocent massager, but 32 years of feminine experience prove that it is much, much more. This little miracle of nature has a dual personality that is split between a no-nonsense massager and an after-dark, risqué burlesque.


The magic wand vibrator is about 12 inches long and weighs about a pound and a half. As Hitachi describes it, it has a “non phallic appearance.” The importance of this statement will become important later on, but what they mean is that it has a generic shape and an off-white color. The Hitachi magic wand is not flesh-colored, which makes it easy to pass it off as nothing more than an innocent massager should your roommate come across it while stealing your (and her) favorite top.

Massage Function

On the high setting, the magic wand will absolutely pulverize muscle tension in your back and legs. The high setting is just perfect for dealing with spasms deep in these locations. The strong, rhythmic vibrations the wand produces at maximum power melt away the pain and leave you pleasantly relaxed.The Hitachi magic wand massager plugs into the wall via its cord and has two speed settings. The low speed setting is great from those deep, nagging muscle pains in your neck and shoulders that arise after a long day. The soft, almost pulsating vibration is sure to loosen you up and work out all of the kinks and stress you accumulate over a day.

Many users of the wand have found that it helps to relieve sinus pain when used on the cheekbones and bridge of the nose. I don’t have sinus problems, but placing the massager on the low setting and massaging my cheeks and temples did help to relieve my tension headache. I imagine it would work very well for chronic sinus congestion.

The only thing better than using the Hitachi wand on yourself is having someone else use it to give you a massage. Then you get to enjoy all of the benefits of this miraculous device without lifting a finger. And, speaking of fingers, there is one other use for the magic wand that may just appeal to a few of the ladies out there.

The Secret Magic of the Wand

I’ve talked about the beauty of the magic wand as a massager, but that is only its day job. After dark, this wand turns into something much more…ahem….erotic than just a personal body massager. In case my hints haven’t been clear enough, I’ll let you in on the secret of the Hitachi magic wand……it doubles as a toe-curling, lip-biting, orgasm-generating vibrator.

That’s right, I said vibrator. This is not just any vibrator either. This is a vibrator with 32 years of experience behind it. This is a vibrator that some have called the “most powerful vibrator on the market.” This is a vibrator that, well, doesn’t look at all like a vibrator.
Why Looks Matter

Let’s face it ladies, looks matter. In the case of the Hitachi magic wand, its generic looks and nondescript appearance are of major benefit for several reasons. First, you won’t have to feel guilty about purchasing it or feel naughty about buying a vibrator; at least not until you use it . Second, though it comes in very discreet packaging, you won’t need to worry about the box bursting open on your front porch in front of all your neighbors. Finally, if someone should happen to find it, like a roommate or nosy mother-in-law for instance, you can just play it off as a massager and avoid the embarrassing conversation that would come if it was obviously shaped like a penis.

Another benefit of the Hitachi’s generic looks is what I like to call the “intimidation factor.” Some of you may know what I am talking about, but I’ll spell it out any. Most male partners do not appreciate having another penis in bed with them. In other words, your boyfriend or husband probably doesn't get all gung-ho about using a penis-shaped vibrator on you during foreplay.

The beauty (wink, wink) of the magic wand is that it look like a massager, and so your man will be less intimidated to use it for some sensual foreplay that begins with an erotic massage and ends with…well….an erotic massage. For my guy, the extra penis in the bed seems to dampen the mood. With the magic wand, I can receive some vibrator foreplay, which puts me deep into the mood, and he gets to feel like a stellar lover without the awkwardness that comes with dildos, which puts him in the mood. It is an all around win for us!

Going Beyond Appearances

Looks aren’t everything though, right? Well, in the case of the magic wand vibrator, looks are nowhere near the best part. After all, if generic looks were all it had going for it, the Hitachi wand would not have remained a best seller for 32 years and counting.

When it comes to using the wand as a vibrator, beginners may find it almost too intense. The head of the wand is about 2.5 inches in diameter, which makes it a bit larger for internal use. However, as an external vibrator, it stimulates the clitoris and vulva at once, making for a very intense, toe curling, “oh my god you have to get one” experience.

Because of the larger size of the Hitachi wand, you don’t have to pinpoint your clitoris, but can instead focus on enjoying yourself and getting into the action without worrying about the wand slipping and ruining your rhythm. All you have to do is turn it on and…erm….get down to business.

I mentioned that the stimulation from the wand is intense, and it is. The intensity is a good thing, but for some it can be a little too much to start. I recommend using the wand on the low setting and putting a wash cloth or other barrier between the wand and your skin until you get used to it.

Of course, the powerful vibrations do have their advantages. If you are feeling particularly randy or need to use the wand quickly, without disrobing, the high setting can be just what the doctor ordered. For the more experienced among us, the high setting is the perfect tool for achieving robust, back-arching orgasms.

Music to the Ears

Unlike the harsh, mechanical, high-pitched whines of traditional vibrators, the Hitachi vibrating massager provides low, pleasant, erotic rhythms. The auditory pleasure delivered by the wand helps to create a carnal mood that transports your senses to a sensual, relaxing realm. This is not to mention the fact that such “massager-like” sounds help to protect your privacy from prying ears. You can always just blame that pesky neck tension when someone questions why you have candles burning, the lights low, and mild vibrations emanating from your room.

Ergonomics

Vibrators often have very poorly placed controls. Usually buttons for speed and other settings are placed at the bottom of a vibrator, which means interrupting your mojo to make adjustments. The controls on the Hitachi wand vibrator are placed about midway up the handle, which makes them easily accessible. This placement is sure to save you from repetitive stress injury during the…ahem…longer massage sessions you might engage in.

It is worth noting that the wand has a cord and not batteries, which can be both good and bad. The cord means that the wand is limited in its portability. It won’t be of much use on camping trips or in the car, but it also isn’t going to cost you a fortune in batteries and there is absolutely no chance of the battery dying at the….erm…wrong moment. There is no optimal solution for powering a vibrator, but the cord on the magic wand works pretty darn well most of the time.

Beyond the Wand

For many women, external stimulation may not be completely fulfilling or you may simply be looking for a little variety. In either case, the Hitachi magic wand attachments can fit the bill perfectly. After 32 years on the market and as one of the top selling vibrators around, the Hitachi wand can boast a plethora of attachments, gizmos, and add-ons.

Available attachments range from simple G-Spot stimulators to exceptionally complicated, almost unexplainable accessories with more protrusions that you can count. There are enough attachments that it would be near impossible to exhaust the possibilities with the Hitachi wand. The attachments are like apps, if you can think of it then there is a good chance there is an attachment for it.

Most attachments simply fit over the head of the wand and most are designed to ensure ergonomic use of the handle while stimulating your most sensitive areas. This maximizes pleasure and also makes the wand simpler to use for a partner.
The Bottom Line

If you are still reading at this point and haven’t bought the wand, do it now! You won’t regret it for a second no matter what personal need you purchase it to fulfill. For 32 years the best vibrator on the market has been pleasing women around the globe. Give it a try and you almost certainly won’t regret it.

The internet is littered with literally hundreds of reviews singing the praises of this wondrous little device, so you don’t just have to take my word for it. Of course, on the very slim chance that you do find you would rather not use it as a vibrator, you still have an excellent personal massager in your hands.